How Sex Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days

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It’s 5:30 am, and your alarm goes off. You open your eyes, and your mind starts racing. Meetings, conference calls and project deadlines all loom.

Why is there always so much to do and never enough time to get it done?

You grab your phone and scroll through your notifications as you walk into the shower, half awake.

Knowing she’s not up, you send her a text message: “Good morning, baby. I hope you have a wonderful day.”

This text serves as two reminders: You want her to know she’s the first thing on your mind. And, more importantly, she needs to realize that, regardless of how stressful or busy your days are, she’s the priority.

It sounds so perfect, but that’s not reality.

Instead, you’ll log into Instagram or Facebook, nosing into everyone else’s life, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll send that text to your woman on the way to work.

Relationships these days lack direction. People “date,” but what the hell does that even mean anymore? Is it hanging out twice a month? Texting all day? Kissing here and there?

Something is missing. What’s causing relationships to falter at the rate they are?

Relationships thrive on communication. Our most intimate emotions are reserved for the person we love, so how is it acceptable to never show them?

We’ve accepted so many unacceptable things: sitting at the dinner table with our phones out, arguing over text, publishing every minute of our lives on social media.

Do you know what trumps all that? That society has accepted relationships in which we are being cheated on every day.

When you think of cheating in the traditional sense, having sex with another person comes to mind.

It’s an intimate situation in which the person you love is connecting with another while you are going about your life, loving and caring for said person.

Once you find out, all trust is lost. But think about the concept for a minute.

Webster’s Dictionary defines cheating as the deprivation of “something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud.”

Sure, sex is cheating and may be the most hurtful case, but have you ever stopped to think you’re being cheated out of your relationship every day?

We experience a lack of communication, attention, passion, intimacy and even lack of love. Why are we okay with this and all the communication shortcuts that have become so common?

This type of cheating causes much more damage than that of any sexual affair.

You’ve given your heart to someone and love him or her with every bone in your body, but you have to beg for his or her attention.

You sit back and watch this person post status updates about useless things, or post pictures just so people can comment.

You need to take a minute to tell her she’s beautiful. Call her after work to say, “Get dressed in 30 minutes. I’m picking you up and taking you somewhere special.”

Make an effort. Old-fashioned love needs to make another round.

The days of holding hands, opening the car door, taking her out “just because,” sending her flowers just to get a smile and leaving her notes on her car should never be gone.

We have to be children when it comes to love.

We have to be vulnerable and free. That can’t happen when we’re preoccupied with the details of everyone else’s lives.

Focus on each other. When it’s all said and done, that’s all you really have.

Appreciate her, and show her how much she means to you. But, most importantly, put your phone down, and dial into what’s in front of you.

Credits: Anthony D’Ambrosio / Elite Daily

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2 thoughts on “How Sex Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days

  1. Totally agree. It’s about the little things and little gestures that should be a routine. And as you pointed it out, communication is key! Thank you.

  2. I completely agree with this article apart from one sense and it is something I have seen alot on articles, pictures and all that stuff that is plastered all over the internet, it is directed mainly at men. Why? Women are just as guilty as men for this sort of thing yet it is overlooked, why? A relationship should never be one sided, it should be equal give and take from both parties. Yeah it is nice and traditional and romantic for a guy to randomly take you put to dinner, but why can’t women (in societies eyes) do the same for men? Todays culture is such a mish mash of traditional values and views and modern day values and views That men suffer alot from the outcome, women earn as much as men, they are equal in every sense other than when it comes to romantic gestures and I don’t think anyone is in particular to blame, I mean can you imagine going into work or hanging with the lads and telling them your girlfriend took you out for a nice meal? You would be emasculated! But then the same goes for most female groups as well, if you said I took my boyfriend out to dinner they would question the basis of your relationship, saying you wore the trousers in that relationship. Its so wrong. That’s all

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