Here are 5 things you may regret at the end of your life from a nurse who works with the dying.

You might think watching people die would depress a person. It actually taught her how to live.
Bronnie Ware spent years as a palliative care nurse, helping patients be as comfortable as possible in the time just before their deaths.

She compiled their stories and the most repeated regrets she heard them utter in their final days. Do you ever imagine what the final years and months and days of your life will be like?

Shared originally on her blog, “Inspiration and Chai,” here are the top five regrets, with quotes from her blog as she recorded them.

Regret #1: I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

Look at yourself in the mirror. Are you living your best life right now? What’s stopping you?

Dreaming of living a different life than the one you have now? Image by Jorge Royan via Creative Commons.
Dreaming of living a different life than the one you have now? Image by Jorge Royan via Creative Commons.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.” – Bronnie Ware

Regret #2: I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

This one speaks for itself.

That desk looks like instant stress before the workday has even started. Image by Alan Cleaver/Flickr.
That desk looks like instant stress before the workday has even started. Image by Alan Cleaver/Flickr.

Regret #3: I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

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Feelings aren’t just useless emotions. Expressing them can be the first step to self-actuating and becoming a newer version of yourself. Image by Garry Knight/Flickr.

What if getting the words out is essential to your growth as a human?

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.” – Bronnie Ware

Regret #4: I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Is there someone you treasure that you haven’t spoken with in much too long?

They're so important to us and somehow we think that "life" getting in the way is a good enough reason to go without seeing them. Image by Jason Hutchens via Creative Commons.
They’re so important to us and somehow we think that “life” getting in the way is a good enough reason to go without seeing them. Image by Jason Hutchens via Creative Commons.

“Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”- Bronnie Ware

Regret #5: I wish that I had let myself be happier.

If you didn’t wake up joyful today, why not? What can you do to change that?

Who was the last person you giggled ridiculously with? Call them. Right now. Image by Adina Voicu/Public Domain.
Who was the last person you giggled ridiculously with? Call them. Right now. Image by Adina Voicu/Public Domain.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.” –Bronnie Ware

Were there any regrets on this list that felt familiar to you? Others that you didn’t see listed?

These are 5 universal wake up calls we all need to be reminded of. There’s no shame in tagging all the friends you need to call when you share this.

Originally from Bronnie Ware’s blog. You can also check out her book, “The Top Five Regrets Of The Dying,” here.

Source: Upworthy

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One thought on “Here are 5 things you may regret at the end of your life from a nurse who works with the dying.

  1. Life is short. I know that by not only working in healthcare (including Oncology & Palliative Care units, as well as the ER) but I battled with depression from the ages of 9-13, including thoughts of suicide. Life is short-enjoy the moment, tomorrow is not promised.

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